Peer pressure is feeling pushed by friends or classmates. It pushes you to think, look or act a certain way. Your peers are people about your age. Peers can be close friends. They can be other kids you know, like classmates and teammates.

Feeling pushed by friends is a normal part of growing up. Nearly everyone has been in that spot. Some pressure is about little things, like the music, shows or clothes friends like. One reason kids go along with friends is to fit in.

Some kids go along because they want to be liked. Others make their own choices. They still listen to what friends say. Pressure can come from inside you, from wanting to belong. It can come even when nobody asks you to do anything.

Friends can influence what you choose to do. You can influence them too. Friends can push you toward good things, like studying together, volunteering or playing sports. Friends can help each other in kind ways, such as sharing, taking turns and speaking kindly.

You can say no thanks to something you do not want to do. A short, simple line is enough. "No thanks" is enough. "I have to go" is enough. Having one friend stand with you makes it easier for both of you to say no. Practicing what you will say ahead of time helps you feel ready.

Feeling uncomfortable about what a friend wants is a sign to stop and think. It is a sign even if the friend seems fine with it. A grown-up you trust can help when a friend's push feels hard to handle.

Words to know

• peers: people your age
• influence: shape choices
• uncomfortable: not feeling right
• belong: fit in