Why does it hurt so much when a pet dies? A pet is part of the family. It can be a playmate and a comfort every day. When it is gone, the house can feel different. The pet was part of every day.

Clear words help. A pet has died. Its body stops working and does not start again. It cannot see, hear or feel anymore. It does not need to eat or drink. Plain words like "died" help children understand.

It is not the fault of the child. Nobody made this happen. It is okay to feel sad. It is okay to cry. Grief is how people feel when they lose someone they love, and that includes a pet.

Sadness, anger and loneliness are some feelings people can have. Each person in a family can show sadness in a different way. Some cry. Some get quiet. Some seem fine at first. All of these can be normal.

It is okay for children to see adults being sad about a pet. Hugs, playing outside and time with friends can help you feel better. Keeping the daily routine of meals, bedtime and play helps a family too.

You can say goodbye to a pet before it is buried. A family can hold a small memorial. Everyone shares stories and pictures of the pet. Telling happy stories is a good way to remember.

A memory box can hold a collar, a favorite toy and photos. You can write a letter to your pet, or draw a picture. You can say what you want to say.

People and families believe different things about what comes after. Ask yours. You can also talk about your feelings with a grown-up. Grown-ups should listen to you.

Words to know

• grief: deep sadness
• memorial: remembering time
• routine: daily habits
• collar: neck band